Take Back Your Life

Inner Work With Joe Ryan

Imagine a life where you no longer fear living in your body, not being bathed in shame and humiliation. Where you no longer have to run from and bury your thoughts, fears, and emotions. No more hiding in isolation and shame. Finally, becoming unstuck emotionally.

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  • Original Pain and Shadow Work
  • Anxiety, Shame, False Self
  • Broken Family Systems
  • Relationships, Divorce, Career Setbacks,
  • PTSD, Addiction, Codependency
  • Authenticity, Self-Esteem, Confidence
  • Grief, Heartbreak, Emotional Paralysis
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Coaching With Joe

Many individuals are currently facing struggles with anxiety, depression, insecurities, isolation, and loneliness in their lives. They feel emotionally trapped and are not sure why. The reason behind it is quite simple. To avoid the emotional pain and humiliation of their upbringing, they created a fake persona. They needed to create a False Self to survive their childhood.

During childhood, they couldn’t be their authentic selves. They had to adapt to their surroundings to please the emotional children that raised them. No one was there for them in the way they needed. Thus, they were forced to push down their hurt and pain and bury it deep within them. They wore masks and performed for the world to see as they quietly suffered inside.

“it didn’t take years to get me to transformation and self-understanding— the breakthroughs began in weeks”

They have lived this lie for so long that they believed it was their truth. This is where they are stuck. They became who they were programmed to become, believing they would be happy, healthy, and well-adjusted if they lived their lie. However, that fantasy never became a reality. They are now trapped in a life they no longer want to live, and they don’t know how to be happy without the mask.

The creation of the false self relieved them of emotional pain and neglect. They were too young and emotionally unintelligent to process the environment they were raised in. The road to authenticity is dismantling the false self by learning to slowly lean into the hurt, pain, and fear that created it. It involves working through the beliefs they were raised by and emotionally leaving their family system and their role in it.

“You have given a voice to parts of me that I didn’t even know existed. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for being brave enough to say all the things everyone else is afraid to say!”

By leaving home emotionally, they will learn who they truly are, what they believe in, and how they want to live their life. They will start to disappoint others who need them never to change or grow, and they will stop disappointing, judging, and abandoning themselves so they can feel loved by others. They will learn to love, care, and nurture themselves with inner discipline and by setting boundaries.

Living an authentic life is easy. Working towards and arriving at authenticity is not. This will be the most emotionally challenging work you will ever do but the most rewarding.

“Joe’s authenticity, willingness and ability to meet me in the deepest depths of my pain, and unwavering honest reflection, is a potent healing balm to wounds that, prior to beginning coaching with Joe, were heavily buried under shame, blame, guilt.”

Imagine a life where you no longer fear living in your body, not being bathed in shame and humiliation. Where you no longer have to run from and bury your thoughts, fears, and emotions. No more hiding in isolation and shame. Finally, becoming unstuck emotionally. Learning how to live up to your potential. Finding the freedom to live life on your terms, your way.

Joe is a skilled guide who can assist you in navigating through your false self, programming, and conditioning at a comfortable pace. He can help you identify blind spots preventing you from moving forward. By challenging your false belief system and negative critical parent that lives within you, he can help you reframe your past. As a surrogate parent, Joe is dedicated to helping people learn how to fulfill their unmet childhood needs. He holds space for them to confront and overcome their fears safely. Joe is an incredibly accurate and powerful mirror that reflects what you cannot see about yourself, building your confidence in understanding who you truly are. He can help you find your way back to your authentic self by giving you a roadmap. Finally, he can help you understand that your self-worth, value, and lovability are not determined by what happened in your childhood.

“The work he is doing is life-saving in the deepest sense of what it means to live a full and free life”

Joe relieves people’s pain by guiding them through it to self-acceptance and authenticity, which is the path to courageous authenticity.

Not sure? Listen to his podcast, It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma,” to see if you can relate, or read the Reviews.

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Reviews

Thank you

It’s so refreshing to listen to someone who has walked through this and is still walking through this, instead of an academic who is looking at it from afar. I feel really really understood in a way that I haven’t in so long.

Joe’s presence is deeply healing

Joe’s authenticity, willingness and ability to meet me in the deepest depths of my pain, and unwavering honest reflection, is a potent healing balm to wounds that, prior to beginning coaching with Joe, were heavily buried under shame, blame, guilt, and many, many other healers’ inability to hold and nurture them. The work that he is doing is life-saving in the deepest sense of what it means to live a full and free life. I am profoundly grateful for Joe’s voice and presence in this world.

Better than my therapist!

I think this is the most enlightening person I’ve heard speak on trauma and fear. It is so much different when you know a person has lived what you feel everyday. He doesn’t hesitate to tell you how to get in touch with the feelings and work through them. He has mire to offer than any therapist I’ve ever spoken to over the years.

Binging Them All

I’m for real blown away with how deep and vulnerable this podcast is. It resonates with my addiction and the chronic PTSD that is starting swallow me whole since I have gotten sober. It hurts. It’s so painful. His voice is so soothing and since binging them I do feel a little raw so maybe I’ll take a break but I know that I have to go through it to get on the other side. I have always been painfully self aware so I knew that I was going to have to relive my trauma but I did t know how to do it and this podcast has given me steps to take and I’m extremely grateful for that!

Honest and Vulnerable Podcast

I’m new to this podcast but so far it has been really great. I appreciate Joe’s honesty and vulnerability. I’m grateful for how he explains to ‘do the work.’ I’ve been stuck feeling like I’m supposed to actively do this or do that. He has confirmed for me that these layers will come up to the surface and the actual work is making space and letting them wash over me. Acknowledge them, grieve, take responsibility, or whatever it is I need to do for myself. Awesome podcast so far.

The hard work shows

I don’t know anyone that’s worked harder at recovery and growth than Joe and that comes shining through in his podcasts. Great insight and advice from a guy that’s walked through the fire himself.

Thank God for this Podcast and for you.

As I write this review I want to cry. It’s almost like you can see inside my soul. I can connect to everything you say and have felt. Honestly I have been in therapy for many years And this podcast is doing more for me than all those sessions. The way you explain things is so understandable and relatable. I don’t know how to thank you.

Breakthroughs Began In Weeks

Joe Ryan is probably the most insightful human being I have ever encountered. I’ve worked with other therapists and coaches, but until I met Joe, I have never done work at such a profound level. With him as my guide, it didn’t take years to get me to transformation and self-understanding— the breakthroughs began in weeks. He deals with raw and real and takes you to places you didn’t even know you had inside you. I came across his podcast and coaching by chance, and they have been life changing. If you are thinking about working with him and are open to exploring an alternative pathway to peace of mind, you are at the right place.

be real … be authentic … be you!

Looking back over the past couple of years, I think the topics that I discussed on my podcast today with Joe Ryan, host of “It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma” resonate with me more than any other show I have ever hosted and is the reason I launched “The Antony Gordon Show” — i.e. — be real … be authentic … be you!

Beautiful & Refreshing

If I were to ever get a life coach he would be the one. This dude is SO vulnerable and honest and raw- absolutely beautiful. He speaks the truth that I need to hear and don’t come across in life. Grateful to listen to his talks. Love the short & direct format too.

The light in the darkness

You have given a voice to parts of me that I didn’t even know existed. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for being brave enough to say all the things everyone else is afraid to say!

Incredibly Helpful and Insightful

I stumbled on your podcast while looking for trauma help. Boy am I glad I did- I have never listened to anyone that has such an honest message packed with so much insightful information! Every episode speaks to me so deeply I feel I am in a therapy session. You make more sense than anything I have listened to. Thank you Joe! I will be listening to all your episodes!

110% authentic

Love how every episode is 110% authentic. It doesn’t sound fake or scripted like a teacher preaching at you, it just feels like a real, raw talk from someone that truly gets it.

Absolutely Life Saving!

This podcast keeps me going. The information, the raw honesty, it’s just so deep. I have never felt like anyone understands me and here is someone who says what’s in my mind and I have never said. Thanks you! Thank you so much for doing this podcast!

Powerful

Wow, just listened to my first episode and was blown away. I got more out of the 17 minutes of the episode than working with any therapist. As someone who has been in recovery from severe childhood trauma for the past thirty years, I am looking forward to listening to all the remaining podcast. Peace, love and healing to you Joe, for doing this podcast and to all who have suffered childhood trauma.

Powerful voice of recovery

Your messages are wonderful and necessary, so people can understand their invisible trauma and heal from it. Thanks for being a powerful voice of recovery and healing

Mind/eye-opening

This dude is out here saving lives. He expresses his pov so articulately and pointedly, no filter and no apologies, but all the while with a purpose. I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this podcast until I actually did. The work you do and the vulnerability that moves it is absolutely necessary and deeply valued. Thank you.

Do Yourself A Favor

Joe Ryan is amazing. This podcast struck a chord in me and I couldn’t stop listening to it. Joe’s podcast is the best CPTSD podcast/resource I’ve found. Give it a listen – it’s real talk.

Inspiring and motivating

You have an amazing heart, such a knowledge of life, and a poetic way of putting it out into the world. You are inspiring and motivating to so many others who are where you once were

Thank You

I’m only 16 so i haven’t lived thru a whole bunch but this podcast is the most helpful thing i’ve ever listened to. Heard one episode yesterday and i haven’t stopped listening since. Please never stop.

110% Worth Listening

i have found it hard to find podcasts revolving around mental health i’ve enjoyed that didn’t seem too “fluffy”. i am 22 diagnosed with ptsd along with the others that follow it, and that’s how i came across this. i listened to one episode and was hooked. i’ve gone through therapy, medication, etc, and i never felt more related to something until now. it was soothing hearing the conversations and stories, being able to have someone say exactly how i feel and what i’m going through is such a relief and has helped me be able to articulate how i express and explain things more. there are some things you know, but it’s just easier to act upon/believe/understand when you hear it from an outside source. i’ve already recommended it to my partner and my best friend. PLEASE give this a try. we all have some sort of trauma and even in listening it could help you understand how other people may work/think bc of their trauma. i am so thankful he made this podcast. this has truly soothed me in my in between time of no therapy and medication and if you have any experience with it that says a lot. i rarely leave reviews. ever. and never have on podcasts but, this is worth any and everyone listening to. i could literally go on and on but rather than reading this, click an episode and give this a try! 100/10 i cannot explain how thankful i am for him sharing himself. it means so much

Heartfelt, deeply intimate, and needed

You have such depth, more than most of the medical professionals I have encountered along my recovery path. Your message is heartfelt, deeply intimate, and needed.

A Gift

I stumbled across this podcast during a particularly difficult time of managing my emotions from a recent difficulty. Years of harming others with my words and actions due to my childhood trauma and resulting PTSD, have harmed many of my relationships an impeded upon my growth and maturity. Years of therapy have not helped me as much as this podcast. I encourage you to give this podcast a listen and promise it will enhance your life. Joe is authentic. He is compassionate and caring. I am so encouraged that I found him and will carry him in my pocket from now on. An invaluable resource.

You Have A Gift

Episode 38, family system boundaries. You nailed it. I plan to listen several more times until it sinks in to my skull. I want to start living again-for me. Thank you so much. Every single one of these “shares” are a true gift.

Rawness, vulnerability and truth

I feel compelled to tell you how much your podcasts have been helping me. After a lifetime of abuse at the hands of too many, your rawness, vulnerability, directness, and truth have made an impact.

These are gifts from heaven

Joe Ryan is the Anthony Bourdain of trauma and recovery! Joe gets right to the point and doesn’t sugar coat anything. I could have used this podcast years ago thank you Joe, for all you do for “Us’

You are making a difference

I want to THANK YOU. Your podcasts have been exactly what I have been looking for. You are simple, concise, and direct in explaining and helping me understand how things in my childhood have affected me – and what the solutions are. Please know that you are making a difference and helping people change their lives!

Such an inspiration

You are such an inspiration! Courageous and Brave! What you are doing is going to help so many people! You have inspired me too!! You have a good soul, how lucky those are that will cross your path and continue on this journey with you!!

Raw Truth

If you’re looking for a place to experience raw truth, Joe’s podcast is the perfect place to be. As I navigate through my own negative thoughts and feelings from years of abuse, it is refreshing to hear that I am not alone in dealing with these feelings, thoughts, and reactions. Even more, I love Joe’s encouragement to continue recognizing emotions and making room for joy in our lives by dismissing the emotional garbage we are slammed with regularly.

Thanks

This is great stuff! All suffering from PTSD, trauma or narcissistic abuse. This podcast is as real as it gets! He has lived it and now helps others suffering. It’s worth taking a few minutes to check it out!

Analytical, deep and honest

I listened to your podcast on iTunes, Fantastic! As were your videos on Instagram. You’re very analytical, deep, honest and your voice is compassionate and calming.

Thank You

I needed this so badly. I am so grateful for your courage to speak this. It’s clear that you’ve done a ton of hard work. I felt so confused and alone, and this podcast has become a lifeline.

I Feel Less Alone

Joe Ryan’s podcast makes me feel less alone as I grapple with recovery from abuse and childhood trauma. Because he is willing to share himself and his process so openly, and with insight and compassion, I feel seen and validated in my own process and am able to offer myself some of the compassion I witness Joe embodying for himself, and I feel the compassion he is offering to others walking a similar path.

In a journey that already feels so lonely, I am deeply grateful that Joe is offering his story and process to others in this way. Thank you for your bravery, your willingness, and the love and intention you put into this healing work.

Thank you for helping me

Joe.. you have helped me understand myself in so many ways it is amazing. You help me understand I am the way I am because of my trauma. I listen to u all day at work. I have a lot of PTSD and obsessive thoughts the last year it has all “thawed out” and I haven’t found any peace or understanding until I found u on Podbean. I would like to thank u. It told me if I wanted to leave a review to come here. Thank you once again— Alicia

Brutally honest truths

Your voice is calm and soothing, and you discuss the brutally honest truths that many of us feel. Thank you for your work

Gives What Therapy Can’t Give

I’ve been in therapy and support groups for two years. None of the therapists or group members could articulate the struggle to recover. This podcast is able to find the words for what it feels like every day to recover from enmeshed family systems and the fallout it created in my adult life. It gave me self compassion to have patience for all my ups and downs along the way. I’m grateful.

Refreshing depth, insight, & sincerity

I really enjoyed the episodes I have listened to. Very engaging, I literally don’t think I even blinked the entire time I was hearing him. Joe’s openness and willingness to share his own narrative and pain is visceral. Deeply insightful and delivered in a clear unabashed voice that feels like real understanding. Thank you for your work here, I appreciate it!

AMAZING

I find myself in tears (because I relate so much) every episode I listen to. Joe is so real, honest, true, and has an amazing way of putting everything I’ve been feeling, thinking, going through, growing through, been through, trying to get through into “just the right words”. I’m so grateful for finding this podcast. Thank you Joe

Refreshing To Relate

When I started listening to the show, I was just shocked and taken aback so often by the fact that what Joe is describing with his process, and experiences is almost parallel to my process and experiences. I love the extra insight, and inspiration. It feels really good to know I am not alone, and also to be reminded that working on myself and doing what I’m doing does matter, and does work. Healing is possible. Thank you for your insights and openness.

Your podcast is so important

I just want to thank you for being real and out there. I appreciate your vulnerability and rawness. There are days I just can’t function, so I listen to a podcast to centre myself. Hearing you describe feelings I never understood helps me make sense of my own experiences.

Blown away

Just started listening this morning and I can relate to the things you shared. My childhood was a complete hole in hell. I feel so validated listening to all the things you shared. Thank you for doing the work and sharing your experience.

Most authentic, genuine speaker

Joe Ryan is the most authentic, genuine speaker you will ever encounter. I wish I had found him years ago! Thanks for the truth and all your help.

Joe leads us out pain and chaos

Joe’s presence is a gift, his vulnerability and willingness to share it with the world is what I needed to begin the deep healing work that I know I’ve needed. With so few people talking about Trauma in any real and tangible way, Joe’s voice and presence gives a light to those of us who know something is amiss but with no guide or framework to lead us out of the pain and chaos, that can often become normalized comfortable discomfort.

So Helpful

Joe has a way of explaining trauma and recovery in a way that makes so much sense. After years of trying to put the pieces together, listening to him is helping it all fall into place. Grateful to have an honest and wise voice that lets me know I’m not alone and that gives me hope.

Relatable and genuine

I thank you for your raw and honest podcasts, sharing your vulnerability. Your podcast is such a support to me and my journey, so relatable and genuine. Thank you for helping us struggling out there

Authentic, Engaging, and Thought Provoking

After spending years following many people talking about trauma on social media, I am uninterested in sound bytes and the same basic descriptions of boundaries, codependency, narcissists, etc. Joe cuts to the heart of what we grapple with as trauma survivors. In each episode of this podcast, Joe offers poignant wisdom from genuine experience. He knows about recovery from trauma and anxiety because he has lived it deeply and continues to do so. With heartfelt clarity, he encourages the listener to take personal responsibility while moving forward into a life of courageous authenticity.

About Joe

Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast “It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“ and one-on-one coaching.

 

Joe is paving the way for people to heal.  He is baring his soul for all to see and, through this bold action, extends his hand to people who might feel stuck or frozen in place, unable to move forward in their healing journeys. Many trauma and recovery coaches in the world are doing great work.  Joe stands apart from the rest because of his warm, compassionate voice and rich experience, which create and hold safe spaces that encourage feeling, expression, processing, understanding, and ultimately healing and thriving.