Trauma Based Inner Work Coaching
You Don't Need To Fix Yourself.
You Need To Understand Yourself.
We Can’t Change What We Can’t See
We know we overthink. We know we people-please. We know we stay too long, give too much, shut down, pull away, or lose ourselves trying to hold onto someone.
Knowing what we do has never been the problem.
The problem is that we don’t know what is driving it.
That is why all the books, podcasts, therapy, and promises we make to ourselves only take us so far.
We’re trying to change the behavior without understanding the part of us that still needs it.
Coaching With Joe Ryan
Looking in the Wrong Place
Most of us believe the problem is our behavior. It isn’t. The behavior is only showing us that there is a problem.
When we mistake the behavior for the problem, we spend our lives trying to change something that was never the cause.
We don’t need better behaviors. We need a better understanding of why those behaviors exist in the first place.
Every behavior is trying to protect something. When we focus only on getting rid of the behavior, we miss the reason it is there. The better question is not, “How do I stop this?” It is, “What is this protecting?”
What Is It Protecting?
We usually focus on the behavior because that is what we can see. But the behavior is only the protection. The real work is understanding the part of us that needed protecting.
We can only work with what we can see. We can’t see the wound. We only see the protection. That’s where we begin. As we begin to understand what the behavior has been protecting, it leads us to the parts of ourselves we never learned how to protect. The parts that were neglected, abused, rejected, or abandoned.
Where Do We Go From Here?
We can’t think our way out of what we’ve spent a lifetime hiding.
The parts of us that have been hidden for years begin to come out when we understand what we’ve been protecting.
Your first session is free. It’s an opportunity to see if this approach feels right for you. There’s no pressure, no commitment, just a conversation.
Whether we decide to work together or not, you’ll leave with a better understanding of yourself than when you walked in.
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Joe’s presence is deeply healing
Joe’s authenticity, willingness and ability to meet me in the deepest depths of my pain, and unwavering honest reflection, is a potent healing balm to wounds that, prior to beginning coaching with Joe, were heavily buried under shame, blame, guilt, and many, many other healers’ inability to hold and nurture them. The work that he is doing is life-saving in the deepest sense of what it means to live a full and free life. I am profoundly grateful for Joe’s voice and presence in this world.
