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EP 0086 – Society Has Failed Us (Subscription)
It’s essential to connect with buried emotions to achieve deep emotional healing. I once went through a tough time when my partner was tragically hit by a car. This incident led me to relapse into addiction and adopt self-destructive behaviors to avoid confronting my pain. I hit rock bottom. A friend suggested a movie that resonated with my experience. Despite my initial resistance, I eventually watched the film, and it helped me confront my emotions, crucial for my healing. Each time I watched the movie, it lessened the pain, allowing me to grieve and process the loss.
Recently, I watched a documentary about an eight-year-old boy named Gabriel, who suffered severe abuse from his mother and her boyfriend. His story deeply affected me, especially when he expressed his desire to be loved despite the abuse he endured. This reminded me of my own painful childhood and the universal need for parental love, even from abusive caregivers. It brought me back to my own unresolved pain and emphasized the importance of addressing these deep-seated emotional issues.
For years, I sought approval and love from my family, but I realized that I needed to focus on my own healing and detach from their expectations. We must acknowledge that the love and validation we seek from our caregivers may never come in the way we desire. It’s our responsibility to work through our unresolved pain and unmet needs from childhood.
The documentary about Gabriel served as a poignant reminder of the importance of addressing these emotional issues. It took me back to my dark places that needed healing. Despite the sadness and pain, it helped me work through aspects of myself I hadn’t fully addressed. Embracing this pain is crucial for genuine healing. Gabriel’s story, although tragic, has shed light on these dark places within many of us, offering an opportunity for healing and growth.
Living authentically and focusing on what truly matters, rather than seeking societal validation, has been a significant part of my journey. I’ve realized that success measures like social media popularity or material wealth don’t bring true happiness. Instead, creating a small, peaceful, and authentic life based on my values has brought me the most fulfillment. By doing so, I’ve built a world that reflects my true self, free from societal pressures.
Ultimately, healing involves taking responsibility for our own happiness, working through unresolved pain, and living authentically. It’s about creating a life that feels right for us, not one that meets external expectations. This journey isn’t easy, but it’s necessary for finding true peace and fulfillment.
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