EP 0030 – Love, Vulnerability, And Loss
When two people fall in love, it’s equivalent to an emotional child born; the relationship has infancy needs. The connection needs to be cared for and nurtured as you would a child. It needs love, attention, affection, and nurturing.
As with all children, there is a separation that needs to take place. We come together as one for the relationship. Then we communicate about separation and individuality, so we can still grow individually while staying connected as we grow together. We want to meet the needs of the individuals and the needs of the relationship as a whole.
Not having trust in the separation process creates fear that will manifest itself in codependency. Here starts the intimacy dance as two people try to hold on to their individually, keep a sense of themselves while maintaining the intimacy growing between them. We do this through Vulnerability.